Treat others how you'd like to be treated. Be respectful of the courage it takes to ask someone to dance. Ideally, we'd say 'yes' to everyone who asked, but if you're taking a break, it's okay to politely decline by smiling and saying 'no thank you.' If you're the one asking and the person declines, don't take it personally. Smile and say, 'maybe later then,' or something similar. If you decline an invitation to dance, please don't dance with someone else for the same song.
Please reflect modesty in all that you do and say. Your choice of clothing, behavior, language and conversation should be respectful of everyone at the dance and of the church building. We have never had any issues with this in the past, and we are very protective of this group of kids. Therefore, there will be zero tolerance for anything that takes away from the wholesomeness of the dances and lessons.
Sometimes there are a few more girls at the dances than there are guys, so guys who haven't asked girls to dance for several songs in a row will be persuaded to get out on the dance floor. We want everyone to relax, have fun, and hang out with their friends! But it is a dance and that's the main reason people come.
We are so proud of the way this group of kids has naturally been inclusive of each other from the start. We have never seen any cliques - everyone dances with everyone. Because of this, we don't normally use dance cards or any other assignment of dance partners. So please contribute to the respectfulness by asking everyone to dance, not just the same people over and aver. This will ensure everyone has fun, and you never know what seed your encouragement might plant!
GUYS: When you ask a girl to dance, be mindful of whether she's in the middle of a conversation with others. Say "Excuse me, would you like to dance?". If she accepts, take her hand and lead her onto the dance floor. While dancing, place your guiding hand at her waist or shoulder. At the end of the dance, escort her back to the place where you picked her up (unless she says otherwise) and thank her.
GIRLS: When a guy asks you, be cheerful whether accepting or declining. If there's a polite reason to decline, you may say so. Be honest, but don't be hurtful. You'll appreciate the same courtesy when it's time for a Sadie Hawkins dance!